Words have power. There is a lot of research and many experiments on how words affect on living beings. Below is an example.
One experiment: I’m sure most of you will know this. There are two plants, one of them was grown in negative environment with cursing and negative words while the other one was grown in a positive environment with kind words. Obviously the plant surrounded by positive words grows taller and healthier. On the other hand, the plant in the negative environment grows poorly.
And this was just on plants. Imagine how words affect humans. That’s why the words we speak and hear in our every day life is important.
Words can shape our life.
There was a girl who was so good at singing. But one time, one of her relative told her how terrible her voice was. Guess what happened? She never sang again. She got quiet in most conversations. All because of a single comment she heard for a second.
This is also true for the opposite side. When we say kind and positive words to others, they’ll start to believe them and those words will impact their lives in a good way.
This is how the words of others affect us. The most powerful words that can affect us at the highest level is our self-talk.
We judge when people talk bad about other people, but do we judge ourselves for telling how bad we are? The way we criticize ourselves in our thoughts is on another level.
We all take it like a normal event. No, it shouldn’t be!
Look at your self-talk pattern
Most of you won’t even realize how much you criticize and undervalue yourself with your thoughts throughout the day. To find out this, look at how you talk to yourself – out loud, or in mind!
You look in the mirror in the morning and you recognize how bad you look instead of looking at your natural beauty of hair, eyes, body!
You failed at something and you started blaming for all the things that didn’t work out instead of appreciating for your efforts of trying.
You did something stupid and you started telling yourself how you did such a shameful things all the time instead of convincing yourself it happens to everyone and that doesn’t make you a bad person.
These are just a few examples. We are constantly judging and blaming and shaming ourself, instead of appreciating, comforting, and loving ourselves.
This pattern should stop now and I’ll tell you how. Below are the three practices that you can start doing starting from now. And see how different you feel and you life looks like.
1. Self-Talk
Start talking yourself in kind way. The most effective way to practice positive self-talk is this.
Talk to yourself like the way you would talk to your child.
Would you blame your child for a mistake they didn’t realize was wrong? Of course not!
You’ll remind your kid how amazing she is, how talented she is, how unique she is, how perfect she is, how she is loved, how she is a blessing to you, so on.
That’s exactly how you talk to yourself. This is a way to build confidence in all areas of your life. And reminding yourself that you’re more than enough just the way you’re.
The next step is to practice affirmations like: “I’m loved, I’m beautiful, I’m successful”.
Look in the mirror, look at your eyes, and say those affirmations and really feel it. You will be so grateful for doing this habit after a month.
2. Journaling
Not only saying out loud the affirmations, also write them down. Every morning, write down 5 affirmations for yourself. It won’t take that much time but the effect is amazing. Try it out!
Another practice is writing down the positive thoughts and experiences. It trains your brain to focus on positivity in every situation.
Your perspective of your life will be changed to “everything is so beautiful” from “I hate this stressful life”.
3. Create Positive Environment
Pouring yourself with positive words is not enough. You need to be mindful of your surroundings. Sometimes, the reason we undervalue ourselves comes from our environment.
When I say environment, it includes the people you hang out with, your family and friends, your workspace, the books you read, the content you consume, etc.
You need to pay attention to those. Don’t let the other people’s negative thoughts and words affect you. Leave that place asap. Pick the right books, the positive and inspiring ones. Be on the side of inspiring contents. Hang out with people who have positive views.
- Avoid gossiping and people who engage in it. Those conversations gives you no benefits but a waste of time and energy.
- Avoid complaining. Put in the work instead of wasting your energy on complaining.
- Avoid self-depreciation humors and talk. Respect yourself. Will you do this to your kid? And do not do this to other people too!
4. Positive Intention
Do everything with positive intention for you and for others.
Write because you want others’ lives to be better. Write to show love, Write to teach something impactful. Write your positive perspectives. Write to make someone’s day better.
Speak because you want others to know how amazing they are. Speak to encourage them. Speak to show your love and kindness for them. Speak the positive things.
Everything has two sides, good and bad. You just need to look at the positive side.
Why are we doing this?
You might be wondering why can’t we just be logical and realistic?
Let me ask you this:
You get 24hours everyday. Do you want to spend your day feeling angry and stressed or do you want to feel happy and at peace?
That’s your choice!
But I’m sure you want your life to be beautiful and happy. So, practice the mentioned habits and embrace your positive side of your life.
I hope this helps you in some ways and see you soon. Love you!
